Why do people say mean things about me

Why do people say mean things about me?

My problem is I am too sensitive, other persons hurt me with their words when they are mean and say horrible things about me. I don’t want to be hurted by this but they won’t stop. Why they do this to me when I am good person?
signed: LJ

People who say hurtful things are expressing (pushing out) the hurt they have inside them LJ.

Something happened in their lives that hurt them so much that their thoughts got poisoned by it. They don’t know the antidote to that poison, so they just keep spitting it up. When that poison is aimed in your direction it’s easy to take it personally, but believe it or not, it’s rarely personal, and when you take it on you are giving your power away to that person and perpetuating their hurt.

Being on the other end of their verbalized pain is kind of like getting a snake bite. You didn’t consciously choose to be bitten, it hurts! But it happened, and there isn’t anything you can do to change it. What you CAN do is decide how much their hurt will poison you and your thoughts and feelings!

As a good person you don’t want to take their hurt on, or throw it back at them; these things just empower the pain to continue and help no-one.

Of course this is easier said than done, but it’s always worth doing because the alternative is spending your life feeling wounded by other people’s issues. Eww!
So I am going to offer you an antidote; a magic phrase that will help move you out of hurt and into a much more powerful place, if you use it well.

The phrase is ‘How interesting.’

It is ‘magically’ powerful because it has the ability to move us out of judgment and ‘poor me’ and into fascinated objectivity.

Next time someone is saying hurtful things to or about you, understand that what they are saying is actually a reflection of what they don’t like in themselves, and say “How interesting” – because it IS interesting!

You can tell just about everything you need to know about someone by how they speak about other people. When you point a finger at someone, there are always three fingers pointing back at yourself.

So based on what is being said, what do you now know about the person accusing you?

If you can stand in your truth, and look compassionately at whoever is hurting so much that they need to lash out at you to make themselves feel better, then you have achieved a level of mastery that will bring you great peace.

There will always be people who like and approve of you LJ. There will always be people who don’t like, and disapprove, of you. There will always be people who don’t care either way. View it all through the ‘How interesting’ filter and you’ll find none of it matters anywhere near as much as what you think of yourself.

The more secure you are in you, the less effected by outside influences you will be. This ‘magic phrase’ will help you with that more than you can imagine. Play with it, see if I’m right.

If you need more help there are a bunch of ‘stay sane in a crazy world’ tools in my video, including an amazing way to protect yourself from negativity and defend yourself in confrontation.