I'm ugly

I'm ugly

Valentines Day sucked as it always does. I don’t have a valentine and the reason is I’m the ‘ugly sister’ the one who never gets the guy because everyone else is better looking. And don’t tell me its my self esteem, its my face, and as long as I have this face I can’t have self esteem. So ‘Wish Granter’ can you wave your magic wand and make me beautiful?

signed: Betty+

Let me ask you a couple of questions Betty. Have you ever known a person who, at first glance, you thought was gorgeous, but after about 5 minutes you’re wondering how you could’ve ever thought them to be attractive?

Have you ever known someone who, at first glance, you dismissed as being unattractive, then later wondered how you ever could have thought them to be anything but stunning?

The difference of course, is the first person is merely pretty, whereas the second is beautiful.

A beautiful person is irresistible!

I’ve had a number of ‘Ken and Barbie’ clients, and their depression and desperation as they get older and start losing their looks is a sad thing to see. They look in the mirror and see that who they think they are, is slowly eroding. That’s scary for them. They have identified with their looks their whole life; they can’t imagine life without a traditionally attractive external appearance.

I have had clients who hold up whatever they imagine to be a handicap, as an excuse to not step forward in their lives: ‘I can’t do that, I’m not even going to try, I am too fat/stupid/short/forgetful/worthless to get what I want, besides I’m a bad speller and my nose is too big.’

I also know people who are so beautiful it eclipses how pretty their packaging happens to be.

If you want to be beautiful Betty you’ll find the secret to beauty is right there in the word: Be Beauty Full!

Fill yourself with beauty, actively, consciously, consistently. Surround yourself with it, create a beautiful space to be in or go to, even if it’s just a corner of a room.

Feed yourself beautiful thoughts. Nurture, nourish, bathe yourself in beauty day after day until beauty sinks in to every part of you, becomes such a part of you, it not only fills you, it radiates from you.

Begin by enjoying anything you find truly beautiful, a landscape perhaps, or a work of art. Spend time with it, don’t just admire it; let the beauty of it settle into your soul. Rest in it, glory in it, discover new aspects of it and experience the delight of that blossoming within you.

Do this with every beautiful thing you see, and soon everything you see will have a beautiful aspect to it.

Have competitions with your friends to see who can become the most beautiful. Form Beauty Groups to support one another. Have regular meetings to do things that make you feel even more beautiful.

Go to beautiful places and see how many beautiful things you can experience: How much beauty you can create: How much you can give and receive.

Fill yourself with beauty until you are so beauty full that it overflows and pours from your face, causing people to completely forget whatever you happen to look like!

Now allow yourself to glimpse the effect that this experiment will have on your life…

So Betty, imagine a magic pair of rose colored glasses shooting out of my wand… Put them on! They will help remind you to look for the beauty in everything you see. When you find yourself focusing on what is wrong and unfair, use that as a trigger to put your magic glasses on and see if you can find beauty somewhere; or if not, to help you look in another direction. :-}