Try this simple, easy way to begin to address conflicts

Start by writing it down for yourself so you can get clear:

  • This is how I feel
  • This is what I want
  • This is what I’m willing to do to get it
  • Remember the idea is to get clear of shame and blame and find a resolution to ongoing conflict – SO this is an example of how NOT to do it with a beloved

I feel angry because you don’t care about me
I want you to change
I’m willing to stay if you do

Try something more like:
I feel like we are growing apart
I miss you, I want to feel that deep caring we had
I’m willing to make time just for us to see if we can regain that closeness we loved so much

Let me know if you need more help with this.